Leadership Tips: How Resilient Are You?
Have you ever thought about the composition and behavior of bouncing balls?
Did you find it interesting that, in the picture above, the ball that bounces the highest is a steel ball against a steel plate? I sure did.
The metaphor I often use about resilience isn’t about steel, however; it’s about rubber vs. glass. It’s about things that will bounce back and things that won’t. We know that rubber balls bounce off most surfaces. They may fly off to places unknown or inconvenient or get caught by someone else, but they do bounce. Glass balls, on the other hand, do not bounce, with few exceptions, like a really shaggy carpet maybe, but only if we get lucky. Generally, glass balls break into a zillion pieces. Consider who and what in your life (including you) is rubber vs. glass today and why. It will matter to you, believe me. You won’t want to drop any of the “glass balls” (relationships that matter, for instance) in your life.
Encasing glass with rubber can transform it. It will change from quite fragile to more resilient. The degree of success you enjoy as a leader and in life is reflected by the degree of resilience you build and sustain. We all need to have both the skills and the attitude to stay “rubbery,” be flexible, and increase resilience.
How to be Resilient: Bouncing Back IS NOT a Spectator Sport!
Over the last few years, I’ve paid attention to people who are and who are not resilient. Here are seven behavioral patterns that resilient people consistently exhibit:
- They ask for help when needed; they don’t define this as a weakness.
- They are humble, admitting they don’t and can’t know everything they need to know.
- They are NOT victims, nor do they exhibit victim behavior.
- They are optimistic and believe they will come through the other side of a current difficulty one way or another.
- They do NOT turn their situation into a catastrophe no matter how tough things are.
- They demonstrate empathy.
- They NEVER GIVE UP!
There are a number of useful strategies and leadership tips for building resilience in real time for yourself and to help others (team, family, friends, etc.) Awareness that you need to do this is, of course, the first step. I’ve put together 10 Tips for Building Resilience. You can download it by filling out the brief form below.
All of these tips require you to think about your own mindset. I suggest this framing:
- It is truly about YOUR CHOICES: your attitude, your decisions, your behaviors, your actions.
- It requires you to PAY ATTENTION to what pushes your buttons, your beliefs about those things, and then what you feel and do about it in the moment and in the long run.
- It IS about taking back YOUR POWER and taking control of YOUR CHOICES.
Here’s to better resiliency…for all of us!
About the author: National leadership expert Roxi Hewertson, CEO of Ask Roxi, has taken the cost and worry out of developing your team’s core leadership skill sets. Learn more at AskRoxi.com →
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